About

Hi there, Paul here.

I love learning about myself and life. I’m so grateful that I get to spend my creative energy contributing to the world of personal development whilst learning even more as I do.

As of right now, I do this in a couple of ways…

Sharing What I Learn - in blogs and books I share the lessons, ideas and experiences that impacted me so that others can benefit from my journey too. Check out my latest book Ponder While You Poop (yes, this book really could change your life).

Collaborating With Coaches - think of me as the chief organiser behind the scenes turning chaos into clarity and ideas into reality. This is where I utilise years of tech, design and marketing experience to help brilliant coaches reach and impact even more people.

For a bit more of my backstory read on.

My Story, So Far…

For most of my life I was a worrier, people pleaser, perfectionistic nice guy - who on the surface was doing pretty well. I got a couple degrees, met a girl, got married, bought a house, started a business, wrote a book, got a dog - from the outside I had it all.

But inside, I was in a living hell. I knew something wasn’t right, but no matter what I tried nothing changed. I so wanted to be happy, make something of myself and actually enjoy life - it seemed so close, but yet so far.

And then, one sunny Sunday afternoon I heard five words that would change the whole course of my life. Sadly, it’s not some wise words from a wise teacher or my own thoughts whilst tripping on mushrooms.

They were from my then wife - “I don’t love you anymore.”

The next 6 months were a blur of trying to save what was already a done deal, I just didn’t know it yet. Then on Christmas Eve 2017 I left to go stay with family.

(don’t feel sorry for me that I left on Xmas eve, I could’ve left anytime, but Paul back then was in full victim mode and knew the whole leaving on that day would buy some pity and give me even more ammo of “look how hard done to I am”).

The Decision To Turn Things Around

In early 2018 I moved in with my nan and somehow kept myself going whilst trying to figure out what the hell happened. One thing I knew for sure, even during this low point, was this wasn’t going to be the end - my story wasn’t going to end like this.

Given all that had happened, my mental state and bank balance I knew my approach to life wasn’t working, and it was time to try something different.

I’d love to share with you some amazing story of going on a couple of retreats or doing some Ayuhasca where the universe completely changed me or that I went and meditated for 30 days and was a new man. Rather than a quick speed boat turnaround, my journey felt more like turning a huge cargo tanker around. Slow, steady, but also inevitable. I wasn’t going to not change my story.

I didn’t know how it would happen or where to start - but I was up for the adventure and challenge no matter what. For the first time (despite 10 years in the self-help world) I was on a genuine journey of self-discovery. I wasn’t looking for shortcuts or quick fixes. I was ready to do the work needed for real change.

And that is the journey I have and continue to be on ever since. It has been the most challenging thing I’ve ever done - AND the best and most important thing as well. My blogs, books and shares are my best attempts to share lessons learned, ideas that helped me and anything that feels important to be talked about more.

Below are just a few of the explorations that were pivotal parts of my journey…

  • I worked behind the scenes for a coach (John El-Mokadem) where I heard shares from lots of people that I related to - and realised anxiety, fear and worry were running my life. Working behind the scenes I often said I had the best seat in the house to learn so much that completely changed my perspective around anxiety, fear and worry.

  • I ran life experiments to deepen my explorations and learn more about myself - from making mistakes on purpose to shaving my head to stopping drinking. Rather than just learn nice sounding wisdom, I applied it in my life - this became a huge source of change and growth for me.

  • I quit using endless tools and techniques just to cope with life. I went through this discomfort of not having these ways to numb, cope and get by - it was extremely uncomfortable at times, but the more I did it the more I realised it would help me in the long run.

  • I moved into my own house, by myself for the first time - I wanted to show myself I could thrive on my own, learn to take responsibility for everything and give myself real space to go deeper on my explorations.

  • I realised that I was a nice guy not a good man - I went on a long overdue maturation journey from little boy to man so I could finally step up and become the leader I always knew was in me.

There is so much more that went into getting where I am today, perhaps I’ll write a few books about them - oh wait, I am :)

The main thing I want you to know is that this journey of self-discovery isn’t about getting to some final destination - it becomes a part of your life that sometimes is quite small because you’re just living life, and other times it’s bigger when you’re really exploring something.

Wherever you are in your journey, I hope you find something helpful in my shares. If you’re not sure where to start here are a few popular posts…

If you’re curious about bringing me in on a project, click here to learn more about how I support clients.

Take care,

Paul