About
Hi there, Paul here.
I love learning about myself and life. I’m so grateful that I get to spend my creative energy contributing to the world of personal development whilst learning even more as I do.
As of right now, I do this in a couple of ways…
Sharing What I Learn - in blogs and books I share the lessons, ideas and experiences that impacted me so that others can benefit from my journey too. Check out my latest book Ponder While You Poop (yes, this book really could change your life).
Collaborating With Coaches - think of me as the chief organiser behind the scenes turning chaos into clarity and ideas into reality. This is where I utilise years of tech, design and marketing experience to help brilliant coaches reach and impact even more people.
If you’re curious about how I got to this point in my life, read on…
My Backstory…
For most of my life I was a worrier, people pleaser, perfectionistic nice guy - who on the surface was doing pretty well. I got a couple degrees, met a girl, got married, bought a house, started a business, wrote a book, got a dog - from the outside I had it all.
But inside, I was in a living hell. I knew something wasn’t right, but no matter what I tried nothing changed. I so wanted to be happy, make something of myself and actually enjoy life - it seemed so close, but yet so far.
And then, one sunny Sunday afternoon I heard five words that would change the whole course of my life. Sadly, it’s not some wise words from a wise teacher or my own thoughts whilst tripping on mushrooms.
They were from my then wife - “I don’t love you anymore.”
The next 6 months were a blur of trying to save what was already a done deal, I just didn’t know it yet. Then on Christmas Eve 2017 I left to go stay with family.
(don’t feel sorry for me that I left on Xmas eve, I could’ve left anytime, but Paul back then was in full victim mode and knew the whole leaving on that day would buy some pity and give me even more ammo of “look how hard done to I am”).
The Decision To Turn Things Around
In early 2018 I moved in with my nan and somehow kept myself going whilst trying to figure out what the hell happened. One thing I knew for sure, even during this low point, was this wasn’t going to be the end - my story wasn’t going to end like this.
Given all that had happened, my mental state and bank balance I knew my approach to life wasn’t working, and it was time to try something different.
I’d love to share with you some amazing story of going on a couple of retreats or doing some Ayahuasca where the universe completely changed me or that I went and meditated for 30 days and was a new man. Rather than a quick speed boat turnaround, my journey felt more like turning a huge cargo tanker around. Slow, steady, but also inevitable. I wasn’t going to not change my story.
I didn’t know how it would happen or where to start - but I was up for the adventure and challenge no matter what. For the first time (despite 10 years in the self-help world) I was on a genuine journey of self-discovery. I wasn’t looking for shortcuts or quick fixes. I was ready to do the work needed for real change.
And that is the journey I have and continue to be on ever since. It has been the most challenging thing I’ve ever done - AND the best and most important thing as well.
There is so much I want to share from that journey, perhaps I’ll write a few books about them - oh wait, I am :)
For now, I’ll share what I consider to be a few of the most pivotal elements…
In 2020 I started working behind the scenes for a coach (John El-Mokadem) where I heard shares from lots of people that I related to - and realised anxiety, fear and worry were running my life. In this role I had the best seat in the house to learn so much that completely changed my perspective around anxiety, fear and worry.
Ever since reading The Surrender Experiment I’ve been running life experiments to deepen my explorations and learn more about myself - from making mistakes on purpose to shaving my head to stopping drinking. Rather than just learn nice sounding wisdom, I applied it in my life - this became a huge source of change and growth for me.
Throughout the process I’ve dabbled with sharing my journey, and after some attempts that didn’t quite work out - through this blog, books, videos and resources I get to share my journey. Which I love doing, and it’s also a selfish act - I’ve found sharing to be a really important part of my own journey of self-discovery.
I want to make this world of self-discovery more accessible, fun and life changing in any way I can. In 2025 I published a book called Ponder While You Poop which ticks all those boxes for sure. This I expect will be the first of many books I publish over the coming years, but let’s see.
I’m glad you found my world of self-discovery, when you’re ready let’s explore life together with some of my latest posts…
Happy exploring,
Paul (a fellow student of life)